Three Loves, Three Jobs

Three loves, three jobs.

So, there you are after lots and lots of dates, preparing yourself for the new experiences, grooming  you up, being social, nice, intelligent, etc.  In the end, if you try hard on something, you end up getting it, right? In the end, let´s say that after lots of dates you finally get three great love prospects. 

The first one is rather old, and of course quite a lot more conservative than you.  He´s handsome, and has a lot, yes , a lot of money.  He would be great for you in terms of experience and life style. He knows a lot, or at least he says so, and quite frankly you would be more than safe with him, even when you´re the kind of girl that is anti conservative, totally irrational about money, adventurous.

Although conversation is interesting and there´s always something new in the speech, at some level you don´t have that many things to share with him, so you end up thinking:  “How did you end up dating this guy in the first place?”. Was it only because of the looks, because of the style, because of the money….

Your second prospect is all the opposite, he´s young, strong, happy, somewhat a hipster. Although not specifically handsome, he has something that appeals you a lot.  I would say he´s the black sheep of a preppy family but not sure.  The thing is that, young as he is, he´s not really ready to commit. I mean, he can be with you, and he wants to, he can make you happy, hang out with you and so on, but when it comes to commitment…hmmm, things are not that clear.  He would say something like “we should see what the future holds”. 

He´s adventurous as you, but to be honest, you are not really sure if he´s a wealthy hipster or a guy with no money but with nice friends around… With him, conversation is always funny, but somewhat superficial. He wants to talk about quite different things all at the same time, sometimes he loses you, would a young hipster do for what you´re looking for?

Finally, your third shot. You meet this guy, more less you age, your background.  He says he makes a good life, he´s got money and a stable situation.  God he´s handsome.  As you talk, you really feel this guy connects with you, with your emotions, your desires. He sees life in the same way you see it.  You could spend hours talking to this guy, not even noticing the time. He seems to be a perfect match, but there´s only one problem, He´s foreign, say you met him during summer, so he needs to leave to his home town. 

You could always go for a long distance relationship, but to be honest, would either of you be up for that? Choosing this guy would mean to leave all you have in your life and run for a complete new adventure, in a different city or country, different friends and reality, you must leave things behind.
If the three of them would be madly after you at the same time, I´d bet your question would be “what do I do”, should I choose based in stability, fun or adventure?

Well, in jobs as it might happen with loves, sometimes you find this kind of situations.  As I have been telling over and over again, my main target during the last month was to get an amazing job where I can succeed as a professional and at the same time, learn and be part of an amazing project.  As strange as it might seem, I have been put to the exact same situation as I´m describing in the previous lines.  I have been “dating” lots of recruiters and companies, putting the best of me in each interview, grooming me and my profile up so I´m the best option for the positions available.

I don´t mean to be presumptuous, but I have had quite good luck with getting interviews. In fact, after an exhausting month of massive applications, cover letters, killer questions, exercises and interviews, I ended up being finalist in three different companies. I have applied always for the position of Online product manager, and I got three options, just as the guys I explained before.

The first was an huge and solid company. Let´s say a bank, super traditional, full of people in suits and business clothes. Full of people being 10+ years developing their activity and quite frankly one of the most innovative companies if we speak about online services.  The problem was that the project sounded so boring that I could hardly make a face expresses  “I would love to work for this company”. 

The money was good, the benefits were good as well, but when it comes about career, well, coming from when I came before, I foresaw I would leave a bad experience again. Anyways,  who knows, I´m a mom and a wife with a mortgage over my shoulders, so maybe it´s a matter of responsibility to go for this job.

My second option was the total opposite.  I was called to work for a Startup.  Don´t get me wrong, I have applied for a lot of startups that look just as preppy as the most corporate company, but this one was different.  Located in what Spanish people call “finca regia”, it looked like a quite unorganized company.

 They were just about to launch their website, and they are 100% sure that it will be a big hit , so they´re hiring everybody.  In fact I guess it was a blessing that my former company decided to let us go, so they could take us in the perfect moment and make us part of the adventure.  For product managers, it could mean an amazing opportunity to try and do anything that other companies won´t let you…or maybe not.

One of the main problems was, of course, the age of the company (almost a baby, right?). The second problem what the kind of contract they were offering. They wanted all of us to be freelancers…yes, no direct relationship with the company, no commitment. They are offering a “Trade” contract, which in my given situation was not the best option.  I have found it really complicated to put in the same balance my stability and my opportunity to grow as a professional.  If the startup goes well, then you will always be on top, you would even become one of those sacred cows that no one dares to touch, but what if not?. I would end up in the same place I am now.

The third and most appealing job position was just like the last date I relate in past lines.  An amazing company,  with investors such as google or skype. The company has such an innovative product and business model, and an international  culture (which I love).  This is not a startup but it´s still working as such, which could mean enough resources to be adventurous and try innovative things without many blockers…great deal.

Of course, they offered and amazing salary package, including stock options. Besides, they seem to like me a lot. They see me as a key factor for change in the product department (how appealing) What else would you ask for?. 

Perfect as it might seem, there´s a “but”, there´s always a “but” in every story. And in this story the problem is that the company is in Madrid.  Taking this job would mean not only to leave my adoptive city, Barcelona, but to make a move for my entire family.  This is really an adventure, right?

Well, I think that in jobs, as in loves, there´s not a right answer,  and there are always lots of issues to take into consideration before you decide to commit.  And of course, I have made my decision, but I would really, really like to know your opinions on that. Would you share with me?

 See you next time.

Let go from your job, just like being abandoned by the one you love

As I have explained before, most of the times you want to look for a new job while you´re still in your company. There you have learned stuff, probably gained a bunch of great friends and at some level, you have made it part of your life.

When this happens, well, a part of you feels guilty about the new opportunity, but in the other hand, if you look for something better, it is because you don´t find at home what you want, right?

But, what happens if it´s the other way around, if at some point your company just doesn´t want you anymore, maybe they cannot afford you, sometimes the strategy makes them get rid of you, or even worse, the company is forced to close due to economical, legal, managerial issues…a complete disgrace.

Well, I have been through this creepy situation at least three times. The first one, while I was so young, was because the American company I worked at decided to withdraw from the Ecuadorian market (damned macro economical instability). The second time, I decided to move to the “online world” and I got busted along with the 2000 internet bubble.

The third time, just about a month ago, my company decided that it was not such a good idea to have an IT provider located in Barcelona, to serve Canadian, US, UK and Asian iGaming platforms and websites.  Who was the idiot that had the big idea in the first place?

Anyways, when this happens, I suppose the sensation must be the same as when your partner tells you he/she doesn´t love you anymore.  "What? Me? I am great, how come you don´t want me anymore.  You´ll see, I will find someone 10 times better than you" …. And then the game begins. 

First step, you need mourn a little, you know, just to assimilate the new situation, take care of your finances, get a good idea on how to pass the information to the people that love you, they will certainly be worried about you.

Second, you do need to figure out who you are, what are your values, what are you good at. You need to learn to love yourself again so that others love you.  End of the day, if you´re the unloved , you need to be certain that you can overcome the situation, that you´re good , that you can do it again, and 10 times better.

It´s quite easy to say so, at some level it seems to be obvious, but reality is that, when you´re laid off by your company, as when you´re abandoned by your beloved one, you just have to fight hard to put yourself together and start all over again... and some times it seems to be just so complicated you don´t know even where to start...

Job seeking while still working, Is it like cheating on your partner?

First of all, let me explain who I am.  My name is Yess, I started working 15 years ago, so I would say I have been in the market for 15 years.  I have been working in marketing for the last 5, and during 4 I worked for one of the top most important internet companies of Spain, infojobs.net. So I would say that I know something about Jobs.

I am a girl, 36, married, and with some experience about dating, finding new people, falling in love, as any other woman my age can be.  Having experiences in both sides, I wanted to compare both words, because I see lots of similarities.

When I decided to change from one job to another, I have always found myself doing something I think most people must do when they cheat on their partners. 

I have always seen those scenes in movies or TV shows where the cheater hides away in order to receive a mysterious call from the lover, or doesn´t get home on time, or leaves early just to meet with the lover, the one that , for sure,  gives cheaters long hours of joy, sex, pleasure, etc.

Well, taking the sex away, I have found myself that looking for a job can be quite a lot like having an affair.

I have found myself receiving mysterious calls with the typical question “Are you available for a chat now”.  I have received and seen people receive them and just run to the street, to the bathroom or to a meeting room in the office just in order to have a quick yet very important conversation about a new job opportunity.

 I have also seen myself inventing mysterious doctor appointments, kid´s school meetings or sudden low sugar attacks in order to meet the recruiter, the HR manager, the one offering me the new job (the affair?).

I have also felt the rush, the joy and the stomach stretch when the recruiter has given me the final proposal…wow, pure pleasure, isn´t it?

 Well, I have always said that looking for a job is one of those hypocrite things you end up doing in order to grow as a professional.  Your company is the last one to know that you´re after a new opportunity, you will ALWAYS lie to them until the moment you find your big shot…in other words, your company turns out to be your partner, the one last to acknowledge that you´re having an affair.

I also think that unlike in human relations, it´s the right thing to do when you feel you´re not in the right place or when you feel this is the right timing to try a move.

To those of you seeking for your big shot, keep on doing it. In the end, it´s your future the only one that matters, right?